Oh...to be appreciated

Guys, I want to start out by talking to you all in this insert by saying something that I feell is very important to the longevity of a relationship (married or soon to be). I want to say to all of you that are reading this, make sure that you appreciate your wife or wife-to-be. I know that it’s a challenge for most of us guys to really truly express our feelings to a woman specially our own woman (wife or wife-to-be), but when we as (husbands or husbands-to-be) do this for the woman in our life we are showing that we do appreciate her enough to give ourselves to her from within.

I really do appreciate my wife of 11-years. I try to show how much I appreciate her each day that we are together. But, much unlike the hug or heartfelt kiss that I once spoke of that one can give and get right back… I do not feel it coming back to me…(sometimes) now don’t get me wrong…I don’t do things that I do so that I can feel that she should be compelled to do something in return, I have never been that way in my life. I am just the type that I notice certain things that either do or do not go on in my life with my wife. I pay attention to a lot of body language given off by my wife. I then can react to what I feel she could be in need of at that moment so that my wife can feel comfortable and at ease. My wife and I like most married couples have definitely gone through our more than fair share of ups and downs, peaks and valleys… however you want to refer to it we have been there in our marriage. I “know” deep down inside of me that my wife appreciates me…I do the majority of the cooking for the family, I deal with the kids at school as well as help with them around the house, I make sure that my wife is cared for and the list can go on and on. Now, I know that some if not a lot of you are reading and wondering, “well what does his wife do to show her appreciation to/for her husband?”… My wife has her own style… my wife cooks certain dishes that I have not yet learned to prepare (twice baked potatoes are bangin yall), she also helps with the kids in my absence (as in while I’m at work) helps with homework, laundry, and she also makes sure that I am cared for when I am here off from work. I just look for certain aspects to sometimes be different from time to time with and for us… and at some point in time I’m sure that they will.

Ladies, as you well know, we as men don’t always get it right the first time, but as men we always have the best of intentions at heart. As you also may know, a lot of us guys lack some of the skills that most women desire, (cooking, laundry, socializing, ect). Your vision as a woman of us men is that, we men are a moldable mound of clay that can and will be shaped into (or close to) the husband that you want in your life. Some of you ladies, find that special prize in the “Cracker Jack Box of life” and you do not have to do nothing more that get to know each other and then get married and be happy for life… thee end (yeah right). LOL…

Ladies, as I have spoken or reached out to the guys, I am doing the same to you all. I have expressed to the guys that we as men should express our appreciation to you our wives or wives-to-be… this is very much a 2-way street here, meaning that you as wives or wives-to-be should be expressing you appreciation to your husband or husband-to-be. Let’s take the fact that you as the woman tend to be a little more open or you can express yourself when it comes to your feelings that you are experiencing for or with us in a relationship/marriage better than most of us men, it has been that way through time. There are a few woman that tend to suffer from the same challenge as us men, and on the flip side of that, there are some men that tend to be open with the way that they feel and are able to express their feelings to the woman that he is with. But nonetheless there is a need in each and every relationship to express appreciation of each other.

Couples, both married and soon to be married, as I am closing out this entry I would just like to add by saying appreciating each other should be easy as breathing air, “you just do it” without thought…it’s natural. Guys, when communicating, let it be known what you like or dislike, what you want or miss that you don’t seem to be getting anymore, same goes for you Ladies, and both Guys & Ladies… a very important ingredient is to listen to each as you take the time out to “talk to” each other. That is a great form of appreciation.
And remember…
Love and take care of each other for life.