Told my wife she is fat...

She's put on 6 sizes since we got married.We stopped having sex about a month ago. She's been hounding me asking why we haven't been having sex. The real reason why we haven't been having sex is because she thinks she is an ugly bohemath and I think that she is a lazy fat slob.

She does not like the way she looks but does nothing about it except get sad.

I still love her as a person but not in a sexual way. She just doesn't turn me on.

She hounded me today hard as why we weren't having sex, she reckons I'm cheating on her, so I told her it's because she has become fat. And elaborated and said more so the fact that she doesn't like the way she looks yet does nothing about it except be down in the dumps. How am I supposed to be sexually attracted to someone that doesn't love themselves / be confident about the way they look?

So she shed a few tears and then took off. Now I feel bad, but I just can't see any other way to handle the situation, she wanted to know why so I told her. It is the truth, I can't help if I'm not attracted to her.

Some naturally large women (who are not fat but large) perhaps say big boned, and confident about the way they look are attractive. They don't all have to be size 0 posh spices. It's more the confidence of the individual in regards to their looks rather than their looks.

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Return to Your First Love

This is awesome! Written by Greg Laurie

Do you remember when you first fell in love with your spouse? Remember how you wanted to make such a great impression?

You would wear your best clothes, put your best foot forward, and use your best manners. Wherever you went, people could see you holding hands and looking into one another's eyes. Then there were those little gifts you would give to each other throughout the week, just to let each other know how much you loved one another.

What brought you and your spouse together was your desire for companionship, for intimacy, for honesty. But when a husband and wife begin to take each other for granted, that marriage becomes endangered.

A marriage is strong because you make it that way. Romance is kept alive by a conscious effort on your part. Romance is not something that comes and goes. It is something that you keep alive as you take part in the necessary activities to keep your marriage strong and vibrant.

Strength of a marriage

If these two women can endure tough times ... so can we!

The Donkey Attitude

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.
The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.
Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal,
he would shake it off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge
of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL :
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt.
The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up.
Each of our troubles is a steppingstone.
We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!
Shake it off and take a step up.

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